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Adoption Story: Austin and Melissa

Sometimes there are little bumps along the road and at the time they seem devastating. In the end, when you look back, you see God’s hand in all of the details. Austin and Melissa’s home study took a little longer than any of us anticipated. While it was frustrating, now that their baby girl is in their arms, it all makes perfect sense.  Just two months after their home study was completed, Austin and Melissa were on their way to meet their precious baby girl!  Melissa shares more about their journey to Milli below…

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How we Found CAC - I started researching domestic adoption about 2 years ago.  My husband and I were struggling to become pregnant and we started looking into options for growing our family.  I came across a message board online with other momma's talking about the routes they were taking to grow their family through adoption.  One lady had mentioned CAC and how its a "different" way to approach domestic adoption.  I googled CAC and found their website - I immediately was drawn in.  I loved reading the consultants stories about the adoptions they had helped with.  It was inspiring.  For the first time in a long time I felt hope - I felt like adoption was calling me.

Adoption was a very daunting thing to my husband and I.  We really don't have a lot of adoption in our family, and we were nervous to step out into a path that was so unknown.  After praying and talking about it for months it seemed like, I reached out to CAC to get some more info.  I was lucky enough to receive a response from Leah who was so very helpful answering those few questions we had at the beginning.  We also reached out to local agencies to see what services they could provide.  The big thing that stood out to us comparing small, local agencies and CAC was the wait time.  We were ready to be parents, if we were going to do this (adoption) we were going all in.  We took the leap of faith and signed with CAC, what an exciting day!  We were actually in the process of adopting!!
We started our home study process in September 2016.  Leah was so helpful along the way, telling us what we could expect from the home study.. etc.  She also started helping us create our profile book.  This was sooo helpful, it really took the pressure off of us, she was an expert and knew was expectant parents were looking for in a profile book.  We had a hiccup with our home study in December of 2016.  The day we thought we would be approved, we found out we had to complete a couple extra steps.  It was devastating to us, but in reality it was only a couple week delay.  In that moment though, you feel like your world as stopped.  Leah was there for us.  She had personally been through similar experiences and really encouraged us to trust in God's timing.  In adoption the one thing we learned was to trust in God's timing.. that statement is so true.  If all the puzzle pieces didn't fall like they did, we wouldn't have our beautiful daughter Milli.  She was meant to be our daughter and in those trying times, it felt good to be able to reach out to Leah to give us encouragement.

We were home study approved in early January 2017, what a relief!!  We were finally "paper pregnant" .. what an exciting time, to have all the hard work from your home study pay off.  Leah started giving us suggestions on what agencies to apply to and also sending us situations.  When you see that first situation come across your email, its like the most exciting thing, everything is so REAL.  If we didn't have Leah's help to guide us through those first situations, we would have been very overwhelmed.  There is so much to think about, yes your home study prepares you for this, but it's different when you see that expectant momma's name and that due date.. which most of the time were very soon!

We presented 3 times before being placed with Milli.  The 3 times we heard "no" hurt more than you think its going to.  But like Leah always said, trust in God's timing. 
Milli's Wild and Cracy Placement - One thing I remember in the early days of researching adoption was reading blog posts of stories where waiting families got the news they were matched with a baby already born and they had to travel ASAP.  I remember thinking wow, how crazy and exciting that would be, never in my dreams did I think that would be us!

We presented to Milli's birth mom in early March 2017.  It took a couple weeks from saying we were going to present to her birth momma to her actually looking at the profiles.  Those 2 weeks were the longest weeks of my life.  I kept thinking over and over what she would think about us, would this be another "no"...  I was getting anxious because her due date was fast approaching and if we where chosen, it didn't leave a lot of time to plan.  On a Wednesday we got word that Milli's birth momma was interested in our profile, we were SOOO excited!!  You wait so long to hear those words.  We were set to have our phone call on Friday and to make our match official.  We were so excited and anxious, her due date was only 3 weeks away.  On Friday morning, I received an email that Milli's birth momma had GIVEN BIRTH... I was shocked!  After more emails and phone calls we were told to make travel plans ASAP.  Instead of being anxious about only have 3 weeks to plan, we had no time!  God sure does have a good sense of humor some times.  We had our daughter in our hands the very next day.
Leah was there for us through it all, educating us at the beginning, our home study, our 3 "no's" and our big 1 YES!

We are so blessed by adoption and by Milli.  Even if you have no experience with adoption or have no idea where to start, adoption can happen for you once you take that leap of faith.  You won't regret it - adoption is worth it!

Have questions about domestic adoption?  I would love to chat with you more about working with CAC!  Email me at leah@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Adoption Story: Corey and Brittany

I adored working with this sweet family and I'm excited to have Brittany sharing their story today!  Corey and Brittany got started with CAC last September and by mid-October they were sending off applications to our multiple agencies.  ONE month later they were presenting for the second time and would find out a week later that they had been CHOSEN!  Brittany shares more below...

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Our story began our eleventh grade year in high school. We fell in love from day one! We knew then we wanted a family. We got married in college, but we waited until we graduated to start our family. After a year of being married we began trying to conceive. After a year of negative pregnancy tests, I decided to go to the doctor to see what was going on, and found out I have PCOS. She referred me to an infertility specialist where we later found out that surgery and IVF were our only options to conceive. After lots of talk and lots of prayer, we decided that was not the route for us. We felt like God was pushing us towards adoption. I always had this feeling that God had this plan for me, but I never acted on. We always had an open heart to adopting, but it was always in the back of our minds to pursue later in life.  God kept pushing it forward-constantly.


We finally listened in November 2016 then we started with Christian Adoption Consultants and they walked us through every step of the way.  Each new part of adoption was nerve wracking - we went through home study and we had help from CAC, Leah, creating profiles. After we were approved, we began praying on what agencies felt right for us.

We had our first situation presented to us in October, and what felt like forever waiting on one brave expectant mom’s decision. On my birthday, we found out that we were not the match for this baby. I cannot lie and say that was not hard... because it was extremely hard. Prayer on top of more prayer got us through it. It was easy for us to say what is wrong with us? Or why not us? Were we not worthy? However, it wasn't God's plan, and I had to keep praying hard about that. It’s always hard to hear no, but especially hard when it's your dream. God has bigger plans and He was moving those mountains for us that we couldn’t see yet! God had other plans for us. That is something I take from this experience, trusting in God’s perfect plan, and learning I'm not in control He is!


A few weeks later, we were presented with another situation and we felt that we should put our yes on the table again. This time it felt different, there was no worrying- no stress- just peace! On the night, our profile was presented my husband and I saw a shooting star! We took this as a sign from Heaven to have faith. So we waited...

On November 11th, (11/11/16), I got the best call, we were MATCHED! Our beautiful baby boy was on his way.  The one who had been growing in our hearts for years!  We had 106 days to prepare for Cooper to come into our lives and every day was like a roller coaster. There is always that unknown with adoption where anything can happen at any moment. All that got us through that time was prayer and comfort from the friends and family around you. We were able to have all the fun that any other couple that conceived naturally gets to have. We had baby showers, we went crib and changing table shopping, and we were able to buy him clothes, toys, and so much... SO MUCH more!

The days flew by, up until the last three weeks of our son’s birth mother’s pregnancy, and then it went by so slow! We had to be ready to go at any moment. I just prayed hard every day that God would complete His plan in our lives and that He would use His love to cover the birth family and help them make their decision.  



On March 2 at 7:11 AM, I received a message that said, “He is here and he is perfect!”, then a picture of our beautiful boy!  Normally by 7:11, I have already left for work, but that day I was running behind. As soon as I got the message, I ran into the bathroom to my husband and showed him!  We began making phone calls to our jobs and family, and then we started packing up the car! We hit the road on our 7 1/2 hour trip to our son’s birth state. It felt like an eternity. When your baby is sitting in the hospital waiting to feel your love every minute felt like an hour. When we FINALLY arrived we went straight to the hospital.

The first time we met Cooper both families were in the room. I was so nervous that it was going to feel strange and awkward walking into room with people you don't know, never having met them before. But, God took all those emotions away when the doors opened. It didn't feel strange at all. It felt like walking into a room of family and that's what they are -  we are family. Our son’s birth family will forever be in our lives as our family. When I got to see and hold Cooper it felt like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and all my prayers have been answered.

Our hospital stay was a unique. Cooper stayed with his birth mother for three days after his birth. This also gave me some worries, but I knew God was in control and if He brought us this far, He would take care of it. I also reminded myself that this was her time with him and that we will have a lifetime with him.  The day we were released from the hospital was one of the most emotional days I have ever experienced. There were happy tears, sad tears, tears of relief, and tears of thanks to God. There are no words that can glorify God enough! When we brought Cooper back to our home away from home (our extended stay hotel room), my mom, dad, and my husband’s mom were waiting to see our gift. They were so excited to meet him! Our family was always so supportive of us growing our family through adoption.



Fast-forward three months later and I fall more in love with my boy every day. Each moment of parenthood is full of love and learning. There is so much to take in, and it flies by. I hold him a little bit longer… kiss him a little too much… and stare at him for hours. God has blessed us more than we ever deserve, and we pray that we can raise our son for His Glory!

Considering adoption? I would love to chat with you! Shoot me an email - leah@christianadoptionconsultants.com

Adoption Story: Mitchell and Susie

I'm humbled that God has given me a front row seat at watching Him bring families together through adoption.  While I never know how a family's adoption journey will unfold, I've learned He has a better plan than we could imagine, and He can be trusted!  After my first phone call with Mitchell and Susie, I knew I was going to love working with their family.  I enjoyed getting to know them even more as I created their family profile and I was sure this fun-loving family was going to match quickly.  What expectant mom wouldn't adore them?!  With each "not yet" they heard, I found myself stumped as to why they had not been chosen yet.  In the end, it all made perfect sense when they were matched with their son's birthmom.  It just so happened that their son's birthmom delivered at a hospital less than a mile from my house and I was able to visit them at the hospital and snuggle their precious baby boy.  Such a treat!!  

Today Susie shares their family's story and all that God taught them along the way...

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Like many adoption stories, ours begins with infertility. Because we were married a little later in life, at 30 and 31, we started trying to have kids fairly early in our marriage, and after about a year of trying with no success, we started talking to doctors, and found out we wouldn’t be able to have kids the traditional way. I remember sitting in a urologist’s office in South Carolina when we were told the chances of us naturally conceiving were somewhere around 0%, and that simpler reproductive technologies probably weren’t going to work either. So, IVF was our only choice. We jumped in with both feet into the IVF process, and after our second transfer, we found out we were pregnant with our daughter. When she turned one, we began trying again, and over the course of the next year and a half, we had five more IVF transfers. Three of those ended in miscarriages, and we were devastated. We asked so many questions of God during the next two years of trying to have another child - were we not good enough parents to our daughter? What did we do wrong? Did I have too much caffeine one day? Did I not eat the right foods? Did we not pray hard enough? Was it because I hadn’t relied on God enough in my past that He was trying to “teach me a lesson?” (Probably, but not in the bitter way I was thinking it.) 



Around January or February 2016, we felt like we’d reached the end of the road with the medical interventions in the fertility process. Our doctor was encouraging us to try again - he said that I was perfectly healthy and that another try couldn’t hurt. We walked out of that last appointment and my husband said to me, “I really wish he would have mercy on us and tell us just to stop.” We decided to take time to pray and read our Bibles and figure out what to do next - embryo adoption? Traditional adoption? Pray for a miracle?

Finally, after mourning the loss of the dream of a second biological child, and setting aside the false pride of biology (“we” created our amazing daughter!), and after so much prayer, we sat down and talked and realized we felt clearly God’s call on our lives to adopt. We both felt He was saying, I DO want to grow your family, it’s just not going to be easy, or how you planned. It’s going to be hard, but so, so much better than you ever dreamed.



So, we had our first yes on the table - we were going to adopt domestically. From there, things took us on a journey that could only be God’s plan. As humans, we love to control things, but something I read during this journey said that the lie of adoption, and all of life, is that we are in control. But the beauty of adoption and life is that God is in perfect control and completely trustworthy.

I looked back at my emails just to be sure, but we finally decided to adopt around March 2016, and we contacted Christian Adoption Consultants in early April… which turned out to be just about the exact time our son was conceived. Isn’t God amazing? While we were mired in despair and praying about next steps, desperately desiring a second child, God was already answering our prayer! The truth here really is better than fiction - because when God is the author, He always writes the best stories.

We again jumped in with both feet and had an home study approving us to adopt by June 2016, and sent off applications to agencies at the beginning of July last year. Basically, at that point, all the “doing” was done, so that sense of control (that lie of control) was gone again. There were still choices being made, but they were not ours to make, really. We could choose the expectant moms we wanted to be presented to, but we couldn’t decide whether we were going to be chosen. We presented to 10 or 12 expectant moms, and kept hearing no. Cue the doubts again - God, why are you calling us to do this if you’re not going to answer our prayers? Is this some cruel joke? But when you ask God to do something for you, He often instead wants to do something IN you, and I think that was what was happening in the wait. In Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis says, “I am sure that God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait.” So true - I needed to (and need to) learn that again, that I need to be able to wait. I don’t always need to have the next 20 steps planned out before I start. I simply can't trust in things turning out the way I planned, but I can trust in a good God who is faithful. In a God who is kind. In a God who is never slow in keeping his promises. 



One of the ways God encouraged us during the waiting time was through the financial support of our friends and family. I feel like it’s important to mention this, because this was the part of the process we dreaded most, if I’m being honest. We were so prideful and wanted to do it on our own, but we just were not going to be able to. We got good counsel from friends who called us out on our pride, and told us that we needed to be humble about this and that we would be denying the ability for others to participate in the joy of adoption if we did not seek support. Once we made the “ask,” people told us that they had wanted to help us during our fertility struggles but didn’t know how, and this gave them a tangible way to support us. I can tell you many stories of gifts that had me literally lying on the floor in humble adoration of the goodness of God and the generosity of our friends and family, but suffice it to say people gave so generously, that we were given way more than we even thought to ask for (isn’t that the way God is?), and while we used much of our savings, we did not have to go into debt to pursue adoption, which was such a huge blessing.

Everyone told us all along that when we got our “yes,” all of our “no’s” would make sense, and they were so right. In early January, we got a request to have a call with a mom we’d been presented to who was expecting a little boy, and we ended up having a call with her on January 5. We felt such peace from the first time we talked with our son’s mother. We were able to pray with her, laugh with her over similarities in our families, and even cry a little on that first call. The next morning, January 6, we found out we had matched with her! She was due January 27, so I planned to go shopping for some boy things the next weekend. Again - God surprised us with a plan much different than ours, and the following Thursday, one week after we first spoke with her, she called me at work to tell me she was having contractions. That night was a blur of packing, getting a last minute flight, but one moment that stands out was getting a text from a friend telling me to come over to borrow some newborn boy items. I drove over there late that evening and she and her husband prayed with me, giving me some calm in the midst of a whirlwind.



God was so faithful in all of the details of our son’s birth and arrival. I landed in Florida on the afternoon of Friday January 13, and I was able to spend about 24 hours with our son’s birth mom in the labor and delivery room. That was such a special time. She asked us to be in the delivery room for his birth, and my husband, who had driven down, walked into the hospital room at 12:10 p.m. on Saturday, January 14, and our son was born 14 minutes later at 12:24. Our son’s birth mom asked me to cut the umbilical cord. It was seriously the best experience. We cannot say enough about how amazing she was through this whole process. Because it was a small hospital, and because they were very adoption-friendly, they set us up in a room that day, and our birth mother allowed our son to room in with us the entire time we were at the hospital. Before she was released from the hospital, she even had her pastor come and pray over our son with all of us, and her parents. It just was an unbelievable experience.

There’s so much more I could say, but I’ll try to wrap it up! I’ve been asked what it feels like to be a part of an adoption. There is great sorrow in the process of adoption (both in what God did for us and in the adoption of children here on Earth). It involves lots of brokenness on all sides - physical, emotional, spiritual. But, there is also GREAT JOY. Joy in having a son, joy in being a son. Yes, there is much heartache in the path of adoption, but the outcome is so, so good. It is worth it all! Thank you for taking the time to listen to a little piece of my story today. And since your story is likely very different from mine, I pray that you might feel encouraged wherever you are today - and in whatever present sufferings you might be experiencing.

I wanted to close with some of my favorite verses during this time, which kept coming up over and over in a way that couldn't be coincidental. I certainly will not say I always “rejoiced in our sufferings,” but in any event, I did find them encouraging, and hopefully you will too. It’s Romans 5:3-5, which says:

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit which has been given to us.



We hoped and prayed for God to grow our family and He did. Hope did not disappoint us. I know it won’t disappoint you.


If you are interested in learning more about domestic adoption email me at leah@christianadoptionconsultants.com

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